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Is your present mood right
9:54 PM, Monday, September 22, 2008
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Is your present mood right One's
So the mood to be seen one is really good, must set out from influencing several key elements of the mood, so long as one of them that did not have in these key elements in the heart or it is several, then prove the present mood is good. If it is even several to have one of them, then prove the mood is not good, even very bad one.
People's thought is generally arranged by two kinds of factors, one is rational factor, only reason, and another kind is the unrational factor, only emotional factor. Because of emotional factor of these, let mood of someone sometimes good and sometimes broken just too, can't be steady. Then which are these unrational factors? Can be divided into the following aspects according to researching and analysing:
Envy at first.
It is a kind of a kind of unrational factor with sizable danger strength to envy, so long as people are full of envying in the heart, will make people full of evil intention, even injure others' desire in the heart, so this person just lived in the dark corner from then on, can't swing broad and levelly regardless of conducting oneself or doing things, can't be open and aboveboard. Even speak, will make and try to cover up. Do not go forward to congratulate in the face of others' success or advantage, but demonstrate a pair of appearances hated. Gnash one's teeth, it is itching to let that person disappear in one's own eyes at once, the sooner the better.
The mood of person with this kind of psychology will not have anything happy at all, but full of hating all the time, staring at others' success or advantage fixedly all the time. They put, at improving human performance, consume until how deal with than oneself people terribly valuable time time.
What this kind of people often injured at first is oneself instead of others, at the same time, only as time goes by, the state of mind of people can take place very loud change too, make passivism low-spirited by the original positive striving, full of hatred. At this time, can also speak in this kind of people's heart happily?
If you want to know whether oneself is really happy, then have to search one's heart, whether we will harbour envying to others' success, even have desire to destroy. If any, the psychology that must be own in adjustment well, is good at regarding others as oneself, regard oneself as others.
Secondly angry.
It is the most unwelcome one in human emotion enemy to be angry. It make people lose ability that reason think often, make people in a lot of important occasion serious damage individual dignity and image often too.
If say you are a manager of a customer department, when you face a lot of customers, can't well control one's own mood, random outburst own anger, then the consequence can't be imagined. This just means you will pay the high cost after the thing is crossed - -You will lose a group of customers, even your customer group, by the time, you will understand what will be named " It is not replied that the hero goes Return to " ;
If you are an ordinary enterprise employee, you that the mood is irritable vent in front of others on your mood randomly, even does not disappear in front of the boss a bit either, then what will the consequence that you do it in this way be? Perhaps it is your image that is damaged in leading the eyes, perhaps it is others that begin the cooperative production doubt to you, it is that you would not have any friend from then on to be serious even more.
So ever someone has said: "It is a trap to be angry, often let us sink into it. But who knew again, this trap was being excavated by oneself frequently " .
In this case, it is a formidable enemy of the human mood to be angry, if think of real happiness, must drive away it from our life.
The third is depressed.
Kafka has described his depressed experience like this: "Enclosing two soldiers around I, hands hold pikes. A soldier inside is towards me, the lance depends on me sharp; A soldier outside is outside, the lance points to outside sharp. They are so enclosing me airtightly, make me unable to go out, the person outside can not come in either " .
Though it is unhappy that depressed and other mood can both bring a lot to people's life, but it again and other mood have loud difference very. Other mood training and life skill incorrect at most, but depressed to involve psychology or even issue of individual character, can not be solved easily.
Ever someone has said: "If other passivism mood are obstacles succeeding on the road, make the avenue to success long and hard and dangerous, then, depressed to succeed to try to go south by driving the chariot north Luis at all " . It is really a kind of question letting the person have a headache very much to seem depressed. If one wants to court the successful person wholeheartedly depressed, then basically pronounce this person's " death penalty " . Because even there are many chances to succeed, this kind of people will release one by one. One such state, can one's mood turn better?
So want to get rid of the depressed constraint, must change one's own outlook on life and values at first, change oneself to some stereotypes of thing, put the eyes a bit farther. Be good at seeing the side with good things, you had better go out of the inner circle of people of one's own life, your mental state of change letting beautiful world outside come slowly.
The fourth is tense.
Get two kinds of situations, appropriate tense and excessive intension scores intensely.
All of us know a appropriate one tense to be needed, because it can make whom us gather work, it is unlikely to divert attention. Just think if one is not nervous at all to one's own work, think every day when to do when to do, think how do how make, then is there a good result? But however, the excessive intension is inadvisable, not merely let our long-term preparation be irrevocably lost, still let our original imagination and planning forgotten thoroughly. In addition, the excessive intension will make oneself in a very tired condition too, even let people feel inmature and funny. Usually the behavior of a person's overstrain is that the face turns white, both hands and lip tremble endlessly, head will in spite of having cold sweat, it is rapid to breathe, the language is incoherent, the serious one is still the phenomenon with palpitation.
Certainly there are a lot of tense reasons, for example to lack experience or that a scene is strange. Even if is a already successful person, will be nervous in a lot of scenes, only this kind of people can control one's own one tensely.
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